Since separating I'd like to say that I've managed to gain control of my finances. In many ways I have, but I still consider myself to be in a leaky boat of debt.
You see, I've had problems having contact with my children. I've had to turn to the family courts which has consequently cost me a fortune in legal bills. But, the wheels of justice in the family courts turn slowly and whilst most guys would have given up, I simply refuse.
I love my children more than any amount of money. I saw this as an essential expense, in many ways it was, but it shouldn't have been, but that's a story for another day.
Having a plan, sticking to the plan and seeing the results is enthusing.
But life will often throw you a curve ball of things that you cannot control. You may get ill, you may lose your job, these are all things that may be out of your control. They are a killer for motivation, but you have to accept them and evolve your plan .
My ongoing legal issues and the sheer cost just kicked my plan around like a child kicking a tin can. But I held onto the lessons I had learnt about myself.
My biggest take away of the learning's about myself is knowing and believing that I'm intelligent and hard working, consequently I see my current debt as a temporary problem.
If you're stressing about finances, like I used to, then read that line again:
I see my current debt as a temporary problem.
I changed my mindset to seeing this massive sinkhole that used to stress me out.
Stress and the anxiety that would come with this mountain of debt would cloud my thinking. If you let debt and worry control how you think you're letting it beat you because it can be so overwhelming and consuming to face!
See it as a temporary obstacle that you can beat. Then create a plan to help you believe that you will beat it.
The financial cost to me as a result of my legal bills has been huge, when I mean huge I mean hundreds of thousands of dollars!
I now have my young son on a regular basis. Those bills, and the stress of the whole situation, are worth every single cent when I'm able to read him a story at night, give him snuggles and tuck him into bed at night.
I've learnt from this whole mess that perspective is everything. More often than not it's how you look at a situation that counts.
